Valentine's Day. Not traditionally celebrated by myself, as I find the commercial aspect of the whole shebang to be a little disgusting. However I'm all up for celebrating love at any given time of the year. My cute local friends go wild at Valentine's - with flowers and balloons. I must say that my initial reaction to the Singaporean fascination for balloons, a reaction of complete disbelief, has given way to a sort of admiration for the ability to find joy in the little things in life. That was until I realized how expensive balloons are, and then I just went back to thinking "that's so weird".
As the break-up with Hubby is going along more smoothly than I thought was humanly possible, I tend to get into a lot of interesting discussion with friends on the topic of love. People are impressed with our genuine love for each other, a love that is still there, and will most likely stay. We trust and respect each other completely, and are now helping one another out with dating advice and general life coaching. Then there is the other side, that question my need to "throw away" or "risk everything" by letting go and leaving behind a good relationship that never went bad, it just didn't feel right. Honestly, there is no right answer here. It does take a lot of courage, and it sure as hell is not an easy way to go, that's for sure. There is no way of knowing what the future holds, yet I do think this break will make us both stronger, no matter how our stories end.
Back to love and stuff. Generally speaking we all agree that the fluffy pink version of love sold by Hollywood rom-coms is really way too artificial and any idiot could see that in REAL life, it's a whole different story. But then the conversation goes on, and questions very similar to those asked in these popular movies arise. Is it really possible to have everything in a relationship (an emotional, sexual, intellectual and spiritual connection)? What is a perfect relationship? When does a compromise become a sacrifice? How many soul mates can we have - and do we really have to look for them so desperately?
The BBC has an interesting article on how we have hyped up love into something completely unattainable here.
And Dr Frederick has scientifically proved it, and is also showing how finding love in the little things in life, rather than the white knight on a shiny horse (yeah, you get it), can help us all realize that love actually is all around. Read all about it here.
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